No, this post is not going to be about long-distance relationships. My experience in the field of long-distance relationships is limited to one friendship that has survived the five years I’ve been in the US. I know zilch about maintaining a long-distance relationship with a significant other. So you can figure that out on your own.
This post is about what to do after you signed up for all the activities at the Activities Fair. That was five weeks ago, I know, you’re half a year into college. But right about now, with midterms and papers and projects hitting you right between the eyes, you’re figuring out that you can’t do everything.
That’s a good rule to live by–you can’t do everything.
So how do you choose? Global Affect or Heavy Metal Club? Club Soccer or Knitting Club? You signed up for everything, you’ve gone to some meetings and you want to do all of them.
But remember–you can’t do everything.
You have to choose. You choose based on how much you enjoy the club, how much you like the people there and how relevant it is to what you want to do in the future. The first two are about equally important, but the third is definitely less so. Shocking? Maybe, but if you work hard enough, any employer/grad school will see that you have what it takes to do the job. Clubs are supposed to be places that you can relax and have fun, do something you enjoy, not just more things to stuff your resume. So have a little fun!
Listen, I’m on the Quidditch team. I’m a Creative Writing and Sociology major. I don’t want to be a professional Quidditch player. In fact, I don’t think there is such a thing as a professional Quidditch player. I’m also part of Alpha Psi Omega, the theatre group. I don’t want to be a professional actor/technician. Neither of my clubs have strong connections to either of my majors. Yet I do them because I love the friends I have in those groups (in fact, I’m living with two of them), and I have a lot of fun. That’s all you need out of a club.
But, and this is important, once you choose a club, make sure you stay committed. Especially if you’re given a leadership role. However much fun you have, however relaxed the club is about rules, if you’re in a leadership role, it means you’re committed. There are always exceptions, of course, situations where people will understand if you can’t be fully committed. But in general, if you pick a club, that means the club picks you too.
Remember–you can’t do everything, but once you choose what to do, do it well.